Comments for Session Notes https://henze-associates.com/blog 'cause you know you're curious... Fri, 01 Mar 2024 06:08:39 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.1 Comment on Couples Counselling Calgary: Protect your relationship from marriage counsellors. by Protect your relationship from marriage counsellors. – Roslyn Henze and Associates https://henze-associates.com/blog/2020/09/12/cal/couples-counselling-calgary-protect-marriage-from-counsellors/comment-page-1/#comment-24437 Sat, 26 Sep 2020 09:01:38 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=8123#comment-24437 […] Couples Counselling Calgary: Protect your relationship from marriage counsellors. […]

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Comment on Calgary Counselling: Embracing life, in the shadow of death by Calgary Counselling: Embracing life, in the shadow of death – Roslyn Henze and Associates https://henze-associates.com/blog/2020/07/31/cal/calgary-counselling-embracing-life/comment-page-1/#comment-24436 Mon, 10 Aug 2020 21:02:19 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=6761#comment-24436 […] Calgary Counselling: Embracing life, in the shadow of death […]

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Comment on Why can’t we just say it? by Why can't we just say it? – Roslyn Henze and Associates https://henze-associates.com/blog/2020/06/25/cal/why-cant-we-just-say-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24435 Fri, 26 Jun 2020 07:02:21 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5805#comment-24435 […] Read More […]

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Comment on Jim Minker and TheShovel.Net… (Republished from 2019) by Eadwald https://henze-associates.com/blog/2024/02/29/cal/in-memory-of-jim-minker-the-shovel/comment-page-1/#comment-24434 Sat, 30 Mar 2019 04:38:48 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5406#comment-24434 Jolly good show!

Props!

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Comment on Jim Minker and TheShovel.Net… (Republished from 2019) by Cal H. Henze https://henze-associates.com/blog/2024/02/29/cal/in-memory-of-jim-minker-the-shovel/comment-page-1/#comment-24433 Fri, 29 Mar 2019 20:51:20 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5406#comment-24433 In reply to Mike.

Hi Mike,

I believe that is likely true for untold thousands of people – most of whom never posted a single comment on his site.

Thanks for sharing that!

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Comment on Jim Minker and TheShovel.Net… (Republished from 2019) by Cal H. Henze https://henze-associates.com/blog/2024/02/29/cal/in-memory-of-jim-minker-the-shovel/comment-page-1/#comment-24432 Fri, 29 Mar 2019 20:49:15 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5406#comment-24432 In reply to Vivien Augart.

Hi Vivien,

Yes, it really does – and he never swerved from it!

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Comment on Jim Minker and TheShovel.Net… (Republished from 2019) by Mike https://henze-associates.com/blog/2024/02/29/cal/in-memory-of-jim-minker-the-shovel/comment-page-1/#comment-24431 Fri, 29 Mar 2019 20:43:50 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5406#comment-24431 Wow, awsome!

I would not have a faith without Jim and that page.

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Comment on Jim Minker and TheShovel.Net… (Republished from 2019) by Vivien Augart https://henze-associates.com/blog/2024/02/29/cal/in-memory-of-jim-minker-the-shovel/comment-page-1/#comment-24430 Fri, 29 Mar 2019 16:03:58 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=5406#comment-24430 ***:::). Amazing. Thank you so much. Such is a real treasure that can never be buried no matter how deep the effort. The Truth shines like the noon day sun. Vivien.

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Comment on How to raise a victim of childhood sexual abuse by Roslyn https://henze-associates.com/blog/2017/02/18/cal/how-to-raise-a-victim-of-childhood-sexual-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-24409 Sun, 19 Feb 2017 01:38:34 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4849#comment-24409 V.G. Analysis of abuse factors!

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Comment on Are you oversharing? by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/05/03/cal/exhibitionism-communication-sharing-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-24343 Tue, 12 May 2015 08:38:57 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4338#comment-24343 Too true…

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Comment on Are you oversharing? by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/05/03/cal/exhibitionism-communication-sharing-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-24339 Mon, 11 May 2015 12:59:38 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4338#comment-24339 “No where to run to baby, no where to hide”..in other words, finding somewhere else may prove difficult… and I agree re internet/online “church” ..why bother physically going to church when you can just listen to a podcast etc. IMO, The bricks & mortar style of church is on it’s way out, much like the bricks & mortar retail….

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Comment on Are you oversharing? by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/05/03/cal/exhibitionism-communication-sharing-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-24338 Mon, 11 May 2015 09:12:59 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4338#comment-24338 Hi Kathy,

Sadly, a functional grasp of community was lost in most of the North American institutional Church long ago.

Years ago, when the disintegration was finally noted, the first, knee jerk reaction of the Church was to try and build that sort of contrived community. They did so with pretty much the tactics you are describing.

It was the failure of those tactics that sparked the, so called, ” Seeker sensitive,” Church where no one would be subjected to that order of public pressure. Those Seeker Churches have gotten big — but, statistically, they have been repeatedly proven to be a subway station where people pass through either coming into Christianity or, mostly, on their way out of the institutional Church.

Apparently, the pendulum is now swinging back…

I get why it’s happening — the Seeker model has not delivered — but I doubt the old model is going to work better then the last time…

People really aren’t interested in either the Patriarchal controlling institution any more then they are interested in the detached Broadway musical institution. It never was the window dressing that was the problem — it was the institution.

It’s sad really. Fixing it all would be so simple — if the leaders of the institutional Church could just figure out that it’s the institution itself that is the problem, realize that the internet has permanently obliterated both the need for and the interest in the talking-head model, punch the rewind button back all the way to before the Emperor Constantine and finally admit that the only way to save the Church is to throw the institution itself under the bus.

Trouble is, the non-institutional early Church model has been repeatedly proclaimed a failure because, while it wonderfully works to spread the love of Christ, it never works to form a stable institution — the same ‘highly stable and successful’ institution that is currently killing the Church.

Irony…

Cal

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Comment on Are you oversharing? by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/05/03/cal/exhibitionism-communication-sharing-intimacy/comment-page-1/#comment-24336 Sun, 10 May 2015 14:56:50 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4338#comment-24336 Hi Cal, what do you think of this. Our church has this going on today, what I’m calling forced sharing: “It is good for us to reflect on how the resurrection life of Jesus has shaped us personally and as a congregation. We want to give space and time to hear from each other, two things: How have you seen God at work in your life? Where do you long to see God move? This could be personal, it could be interpersonal, and it could be global.”

That’s the format for today, along with communion, including participating in foot-washing. The whole thing makes our skin crawl. Good thing it’s Mother’s Day & we’re heading outta town to see family…excellent excuse..

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Comment on Relationships: Let’s take it for a test drive? by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/04/23/cal/relationships-lets-take-it-for-a-test-drive/comment-page-1/#comment-24323 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 06:09:02 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-24323 I’d suggest that the reason fundamentalism has a problem with cohabitation is mostly because, in that state, they are having sex.

Yet, I’ve worked with a number of couples that lived together without having sex for years — and then married.

They actually ended up worse off as what they solidified was, and largely remained, sexless.

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Comment on Relationships: Let’s take it for a test drive? by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/04/23/cal/relationships-lets-take-it-for-a-test-drive/comment-page-1/#comment-24322 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 15:31:32 +0000 https://henze-associates.com/blog/?p=4279#comment-24322 Hi Cal, I always thought it was “no big deal” for couples to live together before marriage and that living together was just something the fundies had an issue with. I appreciate that there are concrete relationship-risking reasons why living together isn’t necessarily a good idea.

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Comment on The purity culture gets married — kinda… by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/03/11/cal/the-purity-culture-gets-married-kinda/comment-page-1/#comment-24219 Tue, 17 Mar 2015 09:50:35 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3483#comment-24219 HI Kathy,

I know — but, given Google’s down-ranking of all non-mobile-ready sites, I can’t write something of that complexity until I completely reboot this entire website and two sub-domains.

Cal

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Comment on The purity culture gets married — kinda… by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/03/11/cal/the-purity-culture-gets-married-kinda/comment-page-1/#comment-24218 Mon, 16 Mar 2015 16:32:13 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3483#comment-24218 Sounds good Cal, but that doesn’t answer my question???

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Comment on The purity culture gets married — kinda… by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/03/11/cal/the-purity-culture-gets-married-kinda/comment-page-1/#comment-24208 Thu, 12 Mar 2015 08:47:38 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3483#comment-24208 Hi Kathy,

“What we told our daughters about love, sex and intimacy,” sounds like a very interesting title for the next post…

Cal

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Comment on The purity culture gets married — kinda… by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/03/11/cal/the-purity-culture-gets-married-kinda/comment-page-1/#comment-24202 Wed, 11 Mar 2015 13:26:36 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3483#comment-24202 Shared this w/ our pastor Cal via FB we’ll see what, if anything, comes out of it.

What I’ve been wondering about is what you would counsel celibate, single Christian women in terms of their own reproductive health while they are single? I’m working on an article or blog post about same.

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Comment on What defines a successful marriage? by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/01/29/cal/what-defines-a-successful-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-24074 Thu, 05 Feb 2015 10:59:53 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3357#comment-24074 Hi Kathy,

Often very true — sadly…

Cal

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Comment on What defines a successful marriage? by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/01/29/cal/what-defines-a-successful-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-24070 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 16:29:33 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3357#comment-24070 In the end, it seems, all one has is one’s spouse & therefore that becomes the best relationship to focus on, develop, etc.

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Comment on What defines a successful marriage? by Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/01/29/cal/what-defines-a-successful-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-24058 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 10:55:37 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3357#comment-24058 Hi Kathy,

Friendship, of course, could include (with much gentleness, fear and trepidation) the risk of sitting down and speaking into that person’s dysfunction and damage with the clear message that he or she needs help — therapy could be part of such.

More often then not though, comments about such are just used as a weapon.

The spirit and the degree of relational investment/compassion from the source does play a critical role here…

Cal

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Comment on YOU – drop those pajamas and step towards the bed!!! by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/01/27/cal/you-drop-those-pajamas-and-step-towards-the-bed/comment-page-1/#comment-24054 Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:24:12 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3345#comment-24054 Maybe this (sleeping nekkid) is the cure to how “bad” all that sitting is for you.

Although I do wonder if the authors of any of those studies referenced in the article live in a drafty house & are from the parts of Canada where it can hit -40 plus with the windchill.

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Comment on What defines a successful marriage? by Kathy https://henze-associates.com/blog/2015/01/29/cal/what-defines-a-successful-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-24053 Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:19:34 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3357#comment-24053 Trying to live by the philosophy: Keep calm & ask questions. Some days that works better than others.

Question, though Cal re this “In bad relationships, it’s, ‘You’re defective, and you need therapy.'”

Does those sorts of comments ^^ also define a bad friendship?

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Comment on Empathy — minus reason? by Tom https://henze-associates.com/blog/2014/10/03/cal/empathy-minus-reason/comment-page-1/#comment-23617 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 22:26:00 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=3034#comment-23617 Good points… I wonder what carnage unbridled empathy might become guilty of. Are there any examples?

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