Comments on: The starting point for talking to kids about sex. https://henze-associates.com/blog/2011/07/23/cal/the-starting-point-for-talking-to-kids-about-sex/ 'cause you know you're curious... Thu, 20 Aug 2020 22:59:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.1 By: Cal https://henze-associates.com/blog/2011/07/23/cal/the-starting-point-for-talking-to-kids-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-16741 Sun, 24 Jul 2011 08:12:53 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=1726#comment-16741 Hi Shawna,

So very true!

Cal

]]> By: Shawna https://henze-associates.com/blog/2011/07/23/cal/the-starting-point-for-talking-to-kids-about-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-16740 Sat, 23 Jul 2011 22:09:24 +0000 https://www.henze-associates.com/blog/?p=1726#comment-16740 I think that the core belief in sexual integrity doesn’t come from a one-time conversation or a school health class – it develops from healthy, age appropriate and natural conversations with kids. Creating environments where they can ask all the questions they need to ask and having those questions met and answered with respect and honesty is the most important part. I think that it is important that this come to them from their parents and their own home. I think that the more positive, value-centered sex education kids receive in their home means that they will perhaps be a lot less likely to experiment or make the choice to have sex for the wrong reasons or because they are pressure into it.
I think what needs to be established is a lasting sexual integrity that starts at a young age and extends throughout their entire life. It should include guiding their self-image, how they treat members of the opposite sex, and how they view and enjoy intimacy in marriage. They need to be told that it is not dirty and in the proper context, it is beautiful.
It is not just about giving kids the “bird and the bees” talk, I think that they want and need more than that. They want answers and giving them those answers keeps them safer, it doesn’t lead them into having sex too soon – most of them are already having sex too soon. And silence does no good at all, choosing to avoid those difficult and awkward conversations sets them up for so much avoidable pain.
I also think that kids learn to believe in this thing called “casual sex” but I don’t think that it really exists. There is too much connection to all the other types of intimacy. I think parents need to help them to understand that all of those other aspects of intimacy can’t not be affected by having sex, therefore, it can never be considered “casual”.

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