• Have you decided to love?
    Have you decided to love?
    Comments Off on Have you decided to love?

    Good Men Project

    It was ordinary. Not fluffy, not overly romantic. Real. The kind of real I coveted in couples who married shortly after high school, in wrinkled older spouses walking down the street, still holding hands. I had wanted “real” so badly I often wondered if I had given so much power to the fantasy relationship that I couldn’t hack it, that I sabotaged it so I could never have it for myself.

    What I missed when assessing other people’s relationship was their reality. I saw sugar topping the cookie, not the month-old flour involved in the baking.

    Read more
  • You know you need to apologize…
    You know you need to apologize…
    Comments Off on You know you need to apologize…

    NYMag

    “The basic idea is that we are highly motivated to maintain a positive image of ourselves – an image of self-integrity, morality, and adequacy,” Schumann said in an email. And this, she reasons, is why apologizing can suck so very much: Having to admit that our words or actions hurt someone else threatens the image of our ideal self. So it makes sense that so many apologies are so bad. We get defensive, so we justify our behaviour, all to protect our egos.

    Read more
  • Irresistibly drawn to Mr or Ms wrong?
    Irresistibly drawn to Mr or Ms wrong?
    Comments Off on Irresistibly drawn to Mr or Ms wrong?

    Psychology Today

    All of us are attracted to a certain type that stops us dead in our tracks, be it a physical type, an emotional type, or a personality type. Let’s say that there is a “spectrum of attraction,” from 1 to 10; the people at the far end aren’t physically or romantically attracted to us at all, but those at the upper end are icons-they’re compellingly attractive, leaving us weak in the knees and triggering both our longing and our insecurity.

    Read more
  • Do you know what to ask a narcissist?
    Do you know what to ask a narcissist?
    Comments Off on Do you know what to ask a narcissist?

    Psychology Today

    But researchers have recently found that, if you just want an overall view of narcissism, you can replace that 40-question inventory with one question: “How narcissistic are you?”

    The key insight is that people who are narcissists aren’t embarrassed by it, so they don’t hold back on saying so. People who are not narcissistic would feel ashamed to be seen as such, so they rate themselves low on the scale.

    “People who are narcissists are almost proud of the fact.

    Read more
  • What predicts a happy and fulfilled life?
    What predicts a happy and fulfilled life?
    Comments Off on What predicts a happy and fulfilled life?

    Art of Manliness

    Nothing quite like the Grant Study has ever been attempted; as Vaillant puts it, this research represents “one of the first vantage points the world has ever had on which to stand and look prospectively at a man’s life from eighteen to ninety.” The mountains of data collected over more than seven decades have become a rich trove for examining what factors present in a man’s younger years best predict whether he will be successful and happy into old age.

    Read more
  • Abstinence after marriage?
    Abstinence after marriage?
    Comments Off on Abstinence after marriage?

    Esquire

    After a few years, the researcher checked back to find fourteen of the men had since gotten married. She discovered that their lifetimes of fighting sexual desire conditioned them to regard sex as taboo even after the knot had been tied, causing poor communication in the bedroom.

    “After marriage, the church culture assumes that couples become each other’s support, regardless of the issue at hand,” Diefendorf said.

    Read more
  • And, how are you crazy?
    And, how are you crazy?
    Comments Off on And, how are you crazy?

    The Philosophers Mail

    When first looking out for a partner, the requirements we come up with are coloured by a beautiful non-specific sentimental vagueness: we’ll say we really want to find someone who is ‘kind’ or ‘fun to be with’, ‘attractive’ or ‘up for an adventure…’

    It isn’t that such desires are wrong, they are just not remotely precise enough in their understanding of what we, in particular, are going to require in order to stand a chance of being happy – or, more accurately, not consistently miserable.

    Read more
  • How to survive a technically mixed marriage.
    How to survive a technically mixed marriage.
    Comments Off on How to survive a technically mixed marriage.

    Make Use Of

    They say that mixed marriages between geeks and non-geeks are 60 percent more likely to fail. Surprised? Well, you should be, because I completely made that up. But it is true that such a tech-unbalanced marriage can be more difficult than most, but that doesn’t mean your love of tech needs to doom the marriage.

    When I met my wife, she knew that I was an engineering student, so to some degree, she had a fair warning that I was a tech geek three years before we got married.

    Read more
  • Why cheating happens.
    Why cheating happens.
    Comments Off on Why cheating happens.

    Huffington Post

    Past research has suggested that infidelity is one of the leading causes of divorce. But what drives a person to become unfaithful?

    Thanks to a new study published in Contemporary Family Therapy, we now have an inside look into why married women cheat.

    Researchers Michelle Jeanfreau, Anthony Jurich, and Michael Mong conducted case studies on four women aged 24 to 51 who cheated on their spouses and whose marriages subsequently ended in divorce.

    Read more
  • Why you need boredom…
    Why you need boredom…
    Comments Off on Why you need boredom…

    Psy Blog

    While we tend to think of boredom as something that inevitably leads to trouble — drinking, gambling, antisocial behaviour — this research suggests different possibilities.

    More than anything, the feeling of boredom is a strong signal that we are stuck in some kind of rut and we need to seek out new goals.

    In the study above, this search led participants to new ideas.

    Read more
Can't find what you're looking for? Search Here!

Contact us

403 819 3545 (Text message capable)

info@henze-associates.com (iMessage capable)

403 819 3545, (Toll Free) 1 877 922 3143

Please email or text for information or bookings.

Back to Top